At that time, I felt uncomfortable but I also felt that what they said made sense. I should depend on myself to study and I should help to reduce the burden on my family.
Later, when I could go to a prestigious university outside the province, my dad secretly took the offer of a local university for me, claiming that he didn't want me, a girl, to be too far away from home and that the family would worry.
In college, my brother received monthly living expenses of 5000 dollars, while I only had 800 dollars. They said, "Your brother is a boy. He eats more and spends more. As a girl, why do you need so much money? If you really don't have enough, find a rich boyfriend."
I finally realized that my brother and I were different in my parents' eyes, so I consciously distanced myself from my family. Even though the university was very close to home, I hardly ever went back home in four years and chose to work part-time instead. And they stopped giving me living expenses after that argument I had with them.
After graduating from college, I went to the big city I had always wanted to go to without hesitation.