My father, Edward, ran a commercial real estate firm that relied heavily on relationships and image, and my mother, Evelyn, controlled everything else in our lives, from social events to how we were perceived by others.

My older brother, Logan, was four years older than me, and from the moment he graduated college, he became the center of their world.

Logan joined my father’s company and quickly rose through the ranks, closing deals and building a reputation that my parents proudly displayed at every opportunity.

Every holiday dinner, every gathering, every conversation eventually turned toward Logan, his achievements, his future, and everything he represented.

I chose a different path and became a third grade public school teacher in Hartford, a career that I loved deeply but one that my parents consistently treated as insignificant.

Every Thanksgiving followed the same pattern where a relative would ask what I did, and my mother would answer before I had the chance to speak, saying, “She teaches third grade, it’s sweet,” and then immediately pivoting to Logan’s latest business success.