“We ran out of chairs,” she said lightly, almost laughing, as if this was the sort of harmless inconvenience people retold later with a smile. “The kids don’t mind. They’re totally fine on the ground.”

The way she said it assumed I would accept it the way I had accepted so many things over the years. A missed invitation. A forgotten stocking at Christmas. A birthday present bought for my niece but not my daughter because, according to my mother-in-law, she had “lost track.” They had always relied on the same thing: not that I believed them, but that I would decide it was not worth ruining the day over.