I sent money a few times at first, telling myself each time that it was a one-time gesture, that I was doing it for some version of peace rather than in response to pressure. The requests did not diminish. They grew, and as they grew they became less careful, less veiled, more entitled. When I began saying no, my mother’s tone shifted from pleading to pointed. You’ve always been so focused on yourself. Your father sacrificed so much for you. We raised you.

Raised me. On the inheritance they had taken. On the college fund they had emptied into a business that failed within a year. On the absolute certainty that I would carry their decisions without complaint because that was what daughters like me were for.

I stopped answering most of their calls. I let the numbers go to voicemail. I had built a life that did not include them and I was not interested in dismantling it on their behalf.

Then my mother called on a Tuesday evening and her voice had a different quality.

“Colleen,” she said. “It’s your father. He’s sick. Really sick.”