I got a job at a tech startup in Louisville and worked my way up from entry-level development to product management, building teams and software and a professional reputation that belonged entirely to me, that no one had helped me construct, that existed as evidence of what I had done when left with nothing but my own stubbornness and the specific anger of someone who has been underestimated by the people who should have been her foundation.

I met Travis. We had Dylan and three years of a marriage that ended when I found proof of infidelity and left his bags by the door without raising my voice. He stayed in Dylan’s life in the limited way he was capable of, and I stopped expecting perfect from anyone.