I believed her for years, because children accept whatever narratives parents construct, especially when approval feels conditional upon obedience rather than fairness. The imbalance became unmistakable when college arrived, carrying with it the first truly adult decisions of our lives. I studied relentlessly, graduated with perfect grades, and enrolled at a nearby state university to minimize expenses, then worked evenings at a bookstore earning barely enough to survive while my parents charged me monthly rent for the privilege of remaining home.
Meanwhile, Monica attended a prestigious private college across the country, her tuition entirely funded, her dormitory resembling a boutique hotel rather than student housing.
One evening, while I counted coins for groceries, Monica called from her luxurious campus apartment.
“This place is unbearable,” she complained dramatically. “The air conditioning makes a weird clicking sound at night, and my mattress feels slightly uneven.”
I stared at my cracked ceiling and replied carefully, “That sounds incredibly traumatic, Monica. I hope you recover soon.”
She missed the sarcasm completely, which somehow made everything worse.