Maria, another group member who lost her husband two years ago, reached over and squeezed my hand. “That’s normal, sweetie. The grief comes in waves.”

As the months passed, I started dealing with practical matters. James had left me well provided for: our house in the suburbs, an apartment downtown, and a substantial bank account. I could have quit my job at the marketing firm, but the thought of sitting alone in our empty house all day made my skin crawl. Instead, I switched to part-time, working just enough to keep my mind occupied.

The most surprising change came in my relationship with my parents. Growing up, I’d always felt like an afterthought compared to my younger sister, Sarah. They never missed her dance recitals or school plays, while my academic achievements barely warranted a “congratulations.” But after James’s death, something shifted. When they asked if I could help them financially with a monthly transfer of $1,500, I agreed without hesitation.