AT MY STEPSISTER’S 500-GUEST WEDDING, THE FAMILY WHO THREW ME OUT AT 16 LEFT ME STANDING IN THE BACK LIKE I DIDN’T EXIST—UNTIL THE BRIDE SLAPPED ME AND CALLED ME GARBAGE WHILE PEOPLE LAUGHED. I DIDN’T FIGHT BACK. I JUST STOOD THERE… LETTING HER THINK I WAS STILL THAT HELPLESS GIRL. THEN HER FIANCÉ STEPPED IN, STARED AT ME, AND ASKED ONE QUESTION THAT SILENCED THE ROOM: “DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHO SHE IS?”

I spent my first three nights on the couch of a girl from school named Marisol, whose mother sold Avon and asked no questions as long as I helped with dishes. Then I rented a room by the week over a laundromat with money from my after-school job shelving inventory at a pharmacy. I lied about my age to pick up weekend shifts cleaning tables at a diner off Route 40. I learned very quickly which church basements gave out groceries without requiring long testimony first. I learned how to wash underwear in motel sinks. I learned that hunger makes you mean in your head long before it shows anywhere else. I learned how to smile at managers who looked too long and how to keep moving anyway.

I also learned that survival has a rhythm.

You stop asking why this happened and start asking what gets you through Tuesday.