I was thirty-four years old. I had been a widow for exactly eleven days.

I stood frozen by the marble island, clutching a ceramic mug of coffee that had gone ice-cold two hours ago. My eyes were swollen, my chest tight with a suffocating, heavy grief that made it difficult to draw a full breath. I was wearing a pair of Joel’s old sweatpants and a faded t-shirt, completely unmoored in the sudden, silent void of my own home.

But the silence in the house had been shattered.

I watched, entirely numb, as my brother-in-law, Spencer, walked through my living room holding a metal tape measure. He was thirty-two, a perpetually unemployed parasite who lived off his family’s wealth. He was humming a tuneless, upbeat melody, aggressively pulling the metal tape across my hardwood floors, calculating square footage and taking cell phone pictures of my antique furniture. He looked less like a grieving brother and more like a gleeful eviction officer surveying a foreclosed property.

Standing opposite me at the kitchen island was Carla Fredel. My mother-in-law.